Amen!

Forgiveness is about letting ourselves off the hook, not the other person. They remain accountable for their actions, but it is actually to themselves whom they are accountable. If WE continue to hold them accountable, expecting some expression of remorse, we continue to hang onto the hurt. I know this firsthand.

That said, it is so difficult to let go, because holding onto anger and hurt somehow feels validating, that we MATTER. If we let go, it might mean that we really don’t matter, and that is something that everyone struggles with in one way or another.