And “she” may be a sociopath too. I have gotten that excited, tingly feeling with ladies, only to find out that they were just sizing me up to see if I would meet their needs. Nothing reciprocal at all about them. The giveaway was learning that they expected men to go to great lengths to flatter and please them. Again, nothing reciprocal. It is unfortunate to have to be wary and skeptical, but people have so many maladaptive coping behaviors that become automatic. Some of these end up being predatory.