Ghosting is an avoidance behavior, and it turns out that people do it in many aspects of their lives, not just dating. I see ghosting behaviors all the time in the workplace. Not returning emails or phone calls, not showing up to meetings to update team members on one’s progress on a key deliverable, not promptly informing others when a significant problem comes up. The root cause of these behaviors is one’s fear of not measuring up or being good enough.

In the dating realm, it is natural to be uncomfortable in situations, but that discomfort usually originates from people’s own insecurities. In fact, that is a red flag for me, whenever I get ghosted in some context. Good information!

The fact is, being kind always feels better, when it is authentic.