Has this person resolved enough of their psychological traumas so that these do not dominate the relationship?

That’s a big question for me, and sadly, the answer is usually a big, resounding NO! This is critical, though, for mature love to develop between people. Too often, people are still trapped in an unconscious cage of emotional traumas from their past. They are often looking for others to complete them and compensate for their perceived shortcomings. My ex and I fell into this all too common trap and going forward I’d like to do it differently.

And yes, I agree that it begins with attraction, which can proceed to romantic love. Moving forward into mature love requires, well, maturity. Emotional maturity. A somewhat elusive commodity. At any age.