It is consequential, for sure, but even more consequential is what one does about one’s own emotional baggage. Almost all divorces (maybe all) are the result of behaviors rooted in the emotional traumas that people keep buried, but that keep resurfacing when the person is triggered. Since being divorced, I have come to understand how my ex wife and I brought complementary psychological needs to the relationship. Her crap and my crap fit hand in glove. “You complete me.” Ha!

I now believe that before committing to marriage, both people should engage in therapy, to uncover the root causes of their own unique maladaptive coping mechanisms, so they can be free of the need to act those out with their spouse.