“One is to be yourself. Think about the attributes you have and use them as an asset to drive your mission. And if the company needs something different, you still show up as you and then find somebody who’s better than you at those things to help you.”

This may be the single biggest revelation for executives. Fear of not being good enough drives so many destructive behaviors.

Also, in recent years when I would behave in an unauthentic way, I would get a queasy feeling in my gut. I got immediate feedback that I was not being true to my best self. I appreciated that feedback, and it reinforced my commitment to being authentic.