One of the culprits in this is the notion of “soulmate”, “ the ONE”, and “someone who completes me”. This sets the bar so high that no one can meet the standards.

Also, I see on dating apps people who list all these amazing activities and travel destinations. They presume that finding someone who is into the same amazing activities will be a great match. Uh-uh.

I agree that the key is to project who you really ARE, not what you DO, and that will attract who you really want to spend time with.