Personal growth is certainly a desirable outcome in a relationship, but I suggest that it should not be the point, or primary reason, of entering into a relationship. That creates a “me first” mindset from the outset, which then leads to a whole host of relationship dysfunctions down the road. Guaranteed!

I recently read an article that suggested that before entering into a new relationship we should consider what it is that we want to contribute. What is it we want to give the other person? That’s a completely different mindset that is likely to lead to a more thriving and win- win situation.