Spot on! The additional part that also matters a lot is that this behavior is often done unconsciously. It is part of the person’s repertoire of maladaptive coping behaviors that help them feel emotionally protected and in control. Once I understood that, I could more easily move on. I notice it right away now, and it’s clear that the ghoster is not someone I will benefit from having in my life. The ghosting still stings, but I don’t have to go down the rabbit hole of believing it’s about something deficient with me.