This is how I see my situation caring for my disabled daughter. It is a very different life in retirement than I would have illustrated on the drawing board. It imposes a lot of restrictions. But it also provides me with a sense of purpose and very deep connection to what really matters in life. It’s difficult to describe, as all “inner world” experiences are, but it definitely feels like what Universe/God/Nature wants from me, and that it is my particular path to my true self. Accepting that leads to feelings of peace and joy. Resisting it, which I do at times, creates feelings of frustration and powerlessness. Same situation, but different experiences based on my perception and degree of acceptance.