This rings so true, and yet it’s also a no-win situation to start off with the mindset that the other person needs to be your true love (or soulmate, etc). That in itself smacks of projecting our version of perfection onto others.

Nonetheless, new relationships later in life do suffer from our collective emotional baggage. My criteria are simple. Is she comfortable in her own skin and do I feel comfortable in my own skin when I am with her? We all know what that feels like, and if it’s not there that is important information.