Yes, and very often people behave according to a situation that happened many years ago. We adapt and refine protective coping behaviors that shape our current behaviors based on past events. Once I learned this, I was much less affected by the behaviors of others. I recognized that they were often acting unconsciously, as we all do. It wasn’t a character flaw, it was a coping response.

Excellent article! Not only pointing out cognitive distortions, but also giving examples and suggesting remedies.