Yes, and what we don’t trust Is our ability to enjoy BEING with ourselves. Our belief that we need to be with someone else in order to be happy makes us susceptible to our delusions about others. I think we need to be comfortable with our own imperfections before we can recognize the imperfections in others that we can accept. Make no mistake, there are many non-starter personalities out there. Distinguishing those from good people, who just like us are not perfect and even a bit messy, requires us to be grounded in who we are.